What if being emotionally unavailable in your marriage isn't a character flaw but a survival pattern you learned as a boy?

I sit down with Jay Tibbs, a relationship coach who knows what it's like to be emotionally shut down and what it takes to crack open. Jay breaks down the "realm of existence" most men are completely blind to, not because they're weak, but because they were trained out of it.

From boyhood, we learn that emotions are dangerous, that feeling makes you less of a man. But here's the truth: your greatest power is on the other side of what you're avoiding.

Chapters:
02:14 – How Boys Get Trained Out of Feeling
04:37 – Why Men Think It’s “Either Stoic or Weak”
08:49 – Shutdown, Fixing, Disappearing: His Default Patterns
12:58 – The Pain Under the Anger Men Don’t Talk About
19:56 – Turning Pain Into Power Instead of Destruction
23:38 – Why Hyper-Rational Men Can’t Access Emotion
35:09 – Fatherhood, Tears, and the Call That Changed Everything
42:18 – The Message to Men: It’s Not Your Fault, But It Is Your Work

We go deep on how emotional disconnection shows up in marriage: the shutdown, the fixing, the anger that's really pain underneath. Jay shares his own rock-bottom moment (a suicide hotline call that changed everything) and why his wife finally trusted him after he fully went there. 

This is about cultivating the strength to feel without being carried away, and using your wife as a guide into territory you've been avoiding your whole life.
If you've ever been told you're emotionally unavailable, if your wife says she can't feel your presence, or if you're stuck and don't know why, this conversation will show you exactly where the gold is buried.

It's not your fault you're disconnected. But it is your responsibility to find your way back.

Listen and learn how listening to your own heart is the warrior move you've been missing.

Connect with Jay: https://www.instagram.com/mrjaytibbs/?hl=en

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation.

Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.